Good post! Yeah, the whole "prioritize experiences" thing that SJ has just assumes that people won't lie or manipulate for their own ends, and that's just not how people work. Abusers will exploit any system, and a system that doesn't at least try to account for that can't work--and this one certainly didn't. "Trust, but verify" would have been a better starting point, as would be separating personal feelings from larger-scale problems.